My identity hasn't changed since I have developed FMS/CFS.  It has been important to me that this illness does not rob me of my life.  Life is certainly different now, but throughout our lives all of us must make accommodations for all the changes that take place.   I have seen so many ill people in my career, which makes me feel fortunate and grateful that my health isn't worse.  I say that in the spirit of not minimizing what each person's experience is.  It is so important to provide emotional support, caring and kindness to one another.  After all we are in this together!  Blessings to everyone coping with a chronic illness.  Warmest wishes,  Valda